Why “sucking it up” sucks

In our culture, and especially the male culture, I often hear one should just “suck it up” and be cool about it.  What that essentially means is to not feel anything (apart from an acceptable level of joy), and should you dare to feel something, suck it up (man!) and keep your mouth shut. I […]

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What you can learn from skydiving

Have you done a skydive? Have you jumped out of an airplane at several thousand feet, in a tandem or by yourself? What did you take away from it? I did my first tandem skydive in Spain in 2010. I still remember my level of fear before, and the relief after. My second tandem skydive […]

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Craving what is already there

One of my strategies to survive is having concepts about how things should be. While I am busy being stuck in my concept of how things should be, I am likely to totally miss out on the fact that what I want as a result of that concept is already there in that very moment. […]

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The game

I’m noticing how a game rules our everyday life. A game that I have grown so used to, which I have learnt to play so skilfully, to survive. It is a game that is very much entwined in my system – I sometimes struggle to identify it as such. It is not a bad game […]

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(R)Evolution

I came across a revolutionary thought the other day: There’s no hierarchy in evolution. In our personal evolution, we might have the impression that we are on a “higher” level of evolution when we come out of some personal “growth” processes/workshops, and we could find it hard to relate to people in our familiar surroundings […]

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3 steps for making 2019 meaningful

The New Year is here and as usual it arrived quicker than anticipated. I had made it my personal tradition to reflect back on my life at the end of a calendar year and to look ahead and imagine what might happen in the coming year. I kind of missed that this year, and I […]

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Imagine

Imagine the world was a village, filled with your friends and relatives; Imagine there was enough in this world for all of us: enough love, enough food, enough talent and interest, so that you could fill your days with activities you truly enjoyed, which left you feeling fulfilled instead of tired, or a satisfied tired […]

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Perseverance

Do you sometimes wake up in the middle of the night from your subconscious “speaking” to you with great intensity? I do on rare occasions, and the clarity with which certain sentences or words come up usually leave me astonished. I know that the hours around 3 and 4 am are famous for such thing, […]

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