In Love

In love, there are no winners AND losers. We can both win or we can both lose, but never can one win or lose against the other. Nevertheless, we do play these games, and often. Well, I cannot speak for you, but I am convinced it’s something applicable to many people out there. I will write about myself, because that’s all I can really speak for right now. Unconsciously or consciously, I may withhold my Read more…

Why “sucking it up” sucks

In our culture, and especially the male culture, I often hear one should just “suck it up” and be cool about it.  What that essentially means is to not feel anything (apart from an acceptable level of joy), and should you dare to feel something, suck it up (man!) and keep your mouth shut. I tell you something: that sucks. Just because we refuse to feel and express our feelings doesn’t mean they’re gone. The Read more…

What you can learn from skydiving

Have you done a skydive? Have you jumped out of an airplane at several thousand feet, in a tandem or by yourself? What did you take away from it? I did my first tandem skydive in Spain in 2010. I still remember my level of fear before, and the relief after. My second tandem skydive was in New Zealand in March 2016. In between, I had also started to explore fear as such, and my Read more…

Craving what is already there

One of my strategies to survive is having concepts about how things should be. While I am busy being stuck in my concept of how things should be, I am likely to totally miss out on the fact that what I want as a result of that concept is already there in that very moment. So I get stuck in thoughts about the future and forget to appreciate what’s already there. I will give you Read more…

The game

I’m noticing how a game rules our everyday life. A game that I have grown so used to, which I have learnt to play so skilfully, to survive. It is a game that is very much entwined in my system – I sometimes struggle to identify it as such. It is not a bad game or a wrong game. I sometimes just notice that it gives me results that do not serve me, which do Read more…

(R)Evolution

I came across a revolutionary thought the other day: There’s no hierarchy in evolution. In our personal evolution, we might have the impression that we are on a “higher” level of evolution when we come out of some personal “growth” processes/workshops, and we could find it hard to relate to people in our familiar surroundings because they did not take the same steps yet (and might never do so). Or we could meet someone we Read more…

3 steps for making 2019 meaningful

The New Year is here and as usual it arrived quicker than anticipated. I had made it my personal tradition to reflect back on my life at the end of a calendar year and to look ahead and imagine what might happen in the coming year. I kind of missed that this year, and I love the fact that it is up to me when to kick into a new year. Any day can be Read more…

Imagine

Imagine the world was a village, filled with your friends and relatives; Imagine there was enough in this world for all of us: enough love, enough food, enough talent and interest, so that you could fill your days with activities you truly enjoyed, which left you feeling fulfilled instead of tired, or a satisfied tired instead of an empty tired; Imagine a world in which you felt safe enough to laugh and cry with strangers, Read more…